10 Important Life Lessons Learned in 2018

Oh, hello there. It’s been awhile. 5 months to be exact.

A lot has changed since I spoke to you last.

I wanted to discuss some important shit that I’ve learned over the past year. Some, more serious than others. All of these things stemmed from real life scenarios, and if you’d like more detail on *certain* ones, email me. Maybe you can relate.. Maybe you can learn from me.. Or maybe you can laugh. We’ll just have to wait and see…

1. Don’t let people walk all over you, seriously.

If you’re giving your ALL to something, and it’s not being recognized or acknowledged, it’s time to move on. Exhausting all of your loyalty, energy and commitment and still being asked to do more and being told you’re not doing good enough is NOT a normal or healthy environment. Move on..

2. It’s really good for your heart & soul to just forgive people.

People don’t always necessarily deserve your forgiveness, but you do. Holding onto that hatred is HEAVY. And more importantly, sometimes the people that hurt you change, and deserve your forgiveness… You won’t know until you give them the chance to show you.

3. Go after shit, even if you don’t think you’re “fully qualified”.

Seriously, just give it a shot. Whatever it is. But go into it confident, and sure-of-yourself, or no one will buy it. You won’t know if someone’s willing to give you a shot unless you try. DUH.

4. Buying a latte or an americano 5 days a week costs a lot of money, stop it.

For real though. Have you ever calculated it? It’s like $850 – $1000 a year… That’s toooo muchhhhh $$$$$$.

5. There are really awful people out there that put on a REALLY good show.

There’s nothing you can do about this, really. Just tell your story, be honest, be transparent, and don’t stoop to their level. And most importantly, recognize who these people are and stay far, far away from them.

6. Step outside of your comfort zone more, like, waaay more.

A phrase I’ve tried to live my life by since I was 17; “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”. It’s the most important quote I’ve ever come across, because it resonated with me, and I put it into effect. It was terrifying to fly across the world alone at 17 to be with Paul, but look at all the love and joy it brought me. It was terrifying leaving my “stable” job of two years to pursue something totally different, but it’s made a massive difference in my life. And the most relevant example; it was absolutely terrifying to find out that I’d won a scholarship to attend a 4 day Marine Dealer conference in Florida, that I’d have to fly to, and attend, completely by myself…. But I did it. And if I’m being completely honest, it fucking changed my life.

7. If you have goals set, laying in bed all the time will not help you accomplish them.

I know this seems disturbingly obvious, but it really hit me hard this year. There were a TON of things I wanted to accomplish & get done, but I spent most of my time laying in bed watching Netflix instead.. I don’t even like watching TV that much… WTF.

8. Smile more, be kind & friendly, and make conversation with people.

I did a lot of this over the past 6 months. But I did it a TON on my recent Florida trip. And I found out that there are a lot of good, cool, interesting people out there that will talk to you about some pretty interesting shit. Listen to them, learn from them, give people a chance to tell you their story. Sometimes having meaningful conversations with unexpected people changes your outlook on life.

9. Take better care of yourself; Skin, body, teeth, health, mental state, etc.

I’m almost 24 and I’m already seeing and feeling the effects of not taking proper care of my body. Without turning this into a New Year’s Resolution, I’ll just leave it at; taking care of yourself is extremely important. Start young. Acquire healthy habits early on. #SELFCARE Understand that there’s only one alternative to being healthy…. 

10. Recognize toxic behavior and cut that shit out.

In yourself AND in others. Knock it off.. Being a bitch to your significant other for no reason other than you’re in a bad mood? Stop. Nitpicking, nagging, being negative? Quit it. Being walked all over and just letting it happen? “Giiiirl, you betta stahhp”. Seriously. Whatever your toxic behavior is that you’re letting consume your everyday life, change it.

That’s it, that’s all I learned in 2018.
Haha, jokes. 18′ was quite a turbulent year for me, these were just some of my top lessons that made the biggest difference.

I have an overwhelming amount of goals I’m setting and going over for 2019. I don’t even care that it’s a cliche. I’ll be spending the day going over these important life lessons (and others); studying them, digesting them, and inserting what I’ve learned from them into all of my goals for the new year.

Booyah.

Did you learn any important lessons in 2018?
What stuck out to you?
What changed you?
What caused you to grow?
Share some important shit you learned this year >

How to Keep Things Hygge in the Spring

The hygge way of life was invented to combat the notorious depression that comes with winter. Denmark has long, drawn-out winters with scarce amounts of daylight. Therefore, they needed a way (or a feeling, if you will) to not only get through this time, but to embrace it. So hygge was born.
Hygge, when defined simply by the Oxford Dictionary, is : a quality of coziness and comfortable conviviality that engenders a feeling of contentment or well-being.

Note that the dictionary definition doesn’t really state anything specifically about winter. So who’s to say you can’t “hygge” during every season? If anything, hygge is imperative during Spring.
You’ve just hunkered down for 6-8 months and can’t really remember what green grass and daylight look like.. So now’s the time to truly embrace the coziness that comes with sunshine and a completely fresh and new landscape.

Here are a few ways to carry the hygge lifestyle with you throughout Spring:

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There’s nothing like fresh flowers and precious little succulents to chase off those winter blues. Bring bright colors and fresh pops of green into your home to brighten it up and make it extra cozy. Plus, nothing says “I have my shit together” quite like a vase of flowers or a well-kept succulent garden! That’s right, look at me, keeping plants alive!

If you’re in the Flathead Valley, your best and most delightful place to get either of these pretty little home treats is going to be Mum’s Flowers in Whitefish! Plus, they have a build-your-own succulent garden station and some of the cutest gifts you’ll ever see.


T I P S  F O R  H Y G G E  S U C C E S S :
1. Start small; buy one small succulent garden or one pretty bouquet of flowers, and watch them transform your room
2. If you’re not going to go local on your flower buying, the next best place is Costco (the best bang for your buck!)

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Natural light is one of the coziest things nature has to offer. Let those bright yellow sun rays dance across your room, or the cool blue hues cast from a rainy day… No matter what type of natural light you’re letting in, it’s going to instantly create a cozier vibe.

T I P S  F O R  H Y G G E  S U C C E S S :
1. Open up those blinds first thing in the morning to take advantage of morning light.
2. Clean windows and windowsills make for a better experience
3. If you have large windowsills, keep some plants in them (pretty for you, good for the plants)

outdoors

Even if this means just hanging out in your back yard, just get out there. Get a little bit of sunshine, get your feet dirty, smell the rain, read a book on the patio.. Just be outside, and disconnect for a little while. Brownie points if you actually make it out on a hike or picnic. But no matter where you go, if you’re outside and your relaxed, you’ve got it all figured out.


T I P S  F O R  H Y G G E  S U C C E S S :
1. Create a back (or front) yard sanctuary. This can always be done on a budget! You just need a chair or two, a small table, a blanket and some candles!
2. Go the extra mile to have a real picnic. I mean those picture perfect picnics you see in the movies. It will make the experience that much more hygge to have everything set up so well! (it’s like ‘plating’ a meal – making it look almost too good to eat!)

candles

Ah, candles. All the candles! You cannot hygge, without the candles. And if we’re being honest with ourselves, candles just make everything better. Having a nice dinner, add candles. Relaxing at home while reading a book? Light some candles! Bubble bath!? Not without the candles! Candles bring instant warmth, glow and coziness into any situation they’re brought into. I mean, even Satan worshipers use candles! (Hah). But seriously, the Danes constantly have candles going, and for good reason; they just make everything better.


T I P S  F O R  H Y G G E  S U C C E S S :
1. Buy UNSCENTED or naturally scented candles made from beeswax or soy! Scented candles and petroleum based candles release toxic chemicals into your home and that is NOT hygge. Plus, if you have a ton of candles going at once, you’re definitely not going to want them all to be scented!
2. Even when doing mundane, day-to-day activities, light a candle or two! You’ll be pleasantly surprised at the atmosphere something as simple as lighting a candle can create!

All of these tips are just little things you can do each day to create a cozy life. It’s about simplicity, togetherness, and comfort. There are many ways to incorporate this amazing way of living into your daily schedule. The Little Book of Hygge is where I discovered it all. I immediately fell in love, began applying these rules to my life, and then wrote my first two posts about it :
Hygge Part 1 : What is Hygge and Why Do You Need It In Your Life?
and
Hygge Part 2 : How to Embrace Hygge In Your Everyday Life

My life has been more cozy, organized, and full since discovering hygge. And I can only hope that it does the same for each and every one of you.

 

I do not own any of the photos above, all can be found in their original form on my Hygge Pinterest Board.

Pluviophiles & Petrichor

Say It Dont Spray It

Don’t you find it odd that some people view rain as dreary and depressing, while others are completely enamored by it?

Nothing brings me more bliss than gazing out the window on a rainy day, listening to The Postal Service Radio on Pandora, and sipping on coffee or tea.
Cliche, I know… It’s just the place I’m most content.
Also, side note – Pluviophile is not a dictionary word, so don’t judge me..

While I’d love to lay around and stare out windows all day, I must be a productive member of society, meaning: pants.
Well, other clothes too. Cute ones! I think anyway..

While I would love to be an Urban Outfitters, Anthropology, Bloomingdale’s kind of girl… I am stuck being a TJ Maxx and Target girl for now.
Which, honestly, I’m not horribly upset about… Neither is my bank account.

Jeans: Target, HUNTER boots: Amazon, Cream ELEMENT Long Sleeve: TJ Maxx, Flowy Cardigan: Target, Hat: Target

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I had to add a photo of my hot ass photographer, sorry babe.

Also, you know that intoxicating smell that fills the air when it’s raining? That’s called petrichor.
Some scientists believe that people inherited their affection for the scent of rain from ancestors who relied on rainy weather for their survival.
But mostly it’s a certain chemical that plants release when it rains, and a bacteria the ground produces when it gets wet. SCIENCE!

Anyway, while I didn’t get to spend my day vegging out and watching it drizzle, I did enjoy my short time spent time outside, taking pictures and laughing.

I hope you all had a really, really good 4/20.

And to all of you pluviophiles and petrichor lovers; keep praying for rain.
We need it & we love it.

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How I Spend 35.7% of my Awake-Time

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I spend it at my amazing job, duh! I’m talking about my job guys.
Confession: I actually had to like, do an equation to figure that out! Oops, should’ve paid more attention in Algebra. Anyway, I am awake approximately 112 hours each week, and 40 of those hours are spent at my job. That equates to 35.7% of my WOKE hours spent working. (and you thought you wouldn’t learn anything new today)

But let’s get serious, I love my job (97% of the time). Seems unreal, huh? Here’s what I do, for those of you who don’t already know.
My official unofficial title is : Operations and Marketing Manager at the most absolutely BA Montana business out there – The Montana Scene.
What that means is: I currently manage multiple employees, including my dad (just kidding, kind of, HI DAD!) at 3 (soon to be 4, shhh) different stores and 1 Operations HQ Warehouse.
I also do tons of other tasks such as fulfilling web and wholesale orders, occasional design assistance (fave), pulling and running product for the stores, training and staying in constant contact with employees, and also some occasional (let’s be real, more than occasional) site modeling (also fave).

There are so many more things I do on a daily basis but I really don’t want make anyone any more jealous than they already are.  The important part is that I seriously, seriously love it.

It’s almost as if having an un-accomplishable (I know, not a word) task list is my calling. Constantly running out of time to finish projects, writing unrealistically long check-lists in my planner and answering endless, I mean endless emails, just kind of feels like what I was born to do.

So cheers to Melissa and Sean (the owners) for giving me the opportunity of a life time. I will forever look back on this time in my life, and be astounded at the trust and faith they put into me to help them on this awesome journey. The invaluable knowledge and experience I’m gaining from this job will greatly impact the rest of my life. (Melissa, if you’re reading this, I hope you’re shaking your head at all the sappy shit you just had to read).

I’m coming up on one year of working here, and am proud to say I’ve only had one or two stress-induced “I’m quitting and becoming a house wife” meltdowns.
Both were talked down by my amazingly supportive husband who said “woah, woah woah I know your personality type and you would go on a rampage if you had to be a housewife”. Hah, yeah, that’s how it happened.

(Both meltdowns, I’m sure, occurred sometime around Black Friday / Cyber Monday : you guys are monsters I tell you, MONSTERS. Totally kidding I was absolutely at Target on Black Friday, I wont lie to you)

Anyway,  I’m glad I am where I am. It feels really, really good.

mtscolla

 

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